Erotic Healing:
Sacred Intimacy, Kink Coaching,  & Surrogate Partner Therapy

We're often taught that pleasure, joy, and satisfaction are what's left after we “deal” with all of our stressors and "fix" all of the "shortcomings" of our bodies. After we pay the bills, lose the weight, wash the dishes, get just the right haircut, put the kids to bed… then we’ll finally be able to relax and enjoy ourselves.

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But in practice, we may find that these "perfect" moments are few and far between - the to-do list continues to grow, tragic news stories continue to flood our screens, one work deadline merges into the next. And in those few and far between moments when we think we (mostly) Have It All Figured Out, pleasure can be frustratingly hard to access. Our minds don't stop running. Our bodies don't do the things we want and expect them to do.​

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You may even start to think… Is there something wrong with me? Is it because I'm not good enough? Was I expecting too much? Is this really all there is? If I just go out and achieve some more, then will I maybe finally be worthy and deserving?

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​​But what if you already have everything you need to connect to your deepest erotic self, just as you are now? What if sitting with pleasure, or even attempting to sit with the possibility of pleasure, was enough to neurologically rewire you to feel more of it more often? What if you could wake up every day with a deep sense of gratitude, comfort, and home in your own body?

Let’s make it happen!​​

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My Approach

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My practice sits at the intersection of trauma therapy, bodywork, and human sexuality. I specialize in working with clients who have limited sexual experience, are survivors of childhood trauma, identify as neurodivergent, struggle with body image and chronic shame, and/or are looking to explore expansiveness in their gender and/or sexuality.

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I prioritize creating a welcoming non-judgmental container for you to express your desires, safely explore the edges of your comfort zone, and sit with vulnerable emotions. My approach is acceptance-based, consent-forward, trauma-informed, queer-affirming, kink-friendly, justice-oriented, and client-centered. I welcome clients of all ages (18+), genders, orientations, ethnicities, body sizes, and physical abilities.

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I incorporate a wide array of modalities into our sessions based on your individual goals. Our time together may involve therapeutic somatic exercises, mindfulness-based breathwork, exploring specific thoughts and feelings, supportive affectionate touch, and sexual connection. I have completed hundreds of hours of training which allow me to offer Somatic Sex Education, Sexological Bodywork, & Surrogate Partner Therapy. In addition to formal training, my practice is informed by my personal study of tantra, kink, yoga, massage, and multiple therapeutic modalities, as well as my own journey of healing from childhood sexual abuse and attachment trauma.

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My focus on working with a small number of repeat clients allows me to understand your unique needs and tailor my approach accordingly, tackling specific sexual, emotional, and/or relational challenges you may be experiencing so you can tap into the most authentic & joyful version of yourself!

Testimonials

"I worked with Sage to navigate and begin to heal from past trauma. Her kind, supportive, and professional approach allowed me the space to be challenged and heal from past experiences. Sage is a wonderful and thoughtful person to work with, and I would recommend her to others."

- R.A., 40, El Cerrito​​

"You were clearly put on this planet to be doing exactly this work. I know I say this at the end of each of our sessions, but I continue to be blown away by how much I get out of each one."

- M.D., 29, Palo Alto

"Knowing what safe healthy intimacy feels like in my body has completely changed every facet of my life. Thank you for showing me that I'm capable of feeling safety and pleasure. I am confident in myself in a way I didn't realize I could ever be."

- MV, 39, San Francisco

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"I started seeing Sage because I hadn't had a proper erection in almost 5 years and was seriously considering surgery to get a penile implant. After a few months of working together on both stuff in my childhood and stuff in the here & now, I now wake up with a hard on almost morning!"

- S.T., 75, Berkeley

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Logistics​

If you're interested in working with me, all you need to do to get started is fill out the Erotic Healing Inquiry Form at the bottom of this webpage. If it seems like a good fit, I will reach out to you via your preferred contact method (email or text) and schedule a 15 - 20 minute complementary consultation video or phone call so that we can get to know each other a bit better and I can answer any questions you may have. If we decide to go through with working together, I'll send you a brief intake form and schedule our first session!

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Based on your needs, preferences, and goals, we can work together to determine session frequency (weekly, bi-weekly, or monthly), meeting location (my studio in Oakland or Emeryville or your home in the East Bay or San Francisco), and specific erotic healing modality (Somatic Sex Education, Surrogate Partner Therapy, etc.). There's absolutely no need for you to have any of these things already figured out in order to reach out!